A bit about us...

We are a modern family of three, living on less than two acres with a 3,000 square foot garden that meets our produce needs and allows us to share with friends and neighbors. Our laying flock of chickens seems to expand each year as we raise chicks each Spring to replace older hens. This blog is more of a journal, if you will, for us to chronicle and share our experiences in the yard, garden and kitchen. It is our hope that along the way a few folks might learn something, be entertained, or simply enjoy sharing in our stories and the lessons we learn on a daily basis. I named the blog after the times when I am the happiest, when I am elbow deep in earth.

Saturday, January 18, 2014

Sticks and stones

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.  We have all heard that.

Few can deny saying it at some point in their childhood.  Is there truth in it? Not really. Words really can and do hurt. Most of us can let some silly things roll off like water on a duck's back, but negativity eats away at our emotional armor and those things get through and penetrate deep into a person's well-being.

If you have children and are teaching them that words mean nothing, I heartily disagree with you. As children, adolescents, and as adults, words hurt. You can't erase them. You can't unsay them. When it comes to hurtful words, we seldom forget them either.

When you make a sideways comment to your spouse about someone at the gas station or grocery store, your children are listening. They are learning to judge people. Be mindful of what you say in front of children, your own or others, and be mindful of what you say even when they are not around.

The girl you call fat may already be struggling with her weight and have self esteem issues. The person you say makes bad decisions make have had some very tough ones to make and you will almost certainly not know the circumstances that surrounded them. When you judge someone for the path they have taken, or where they have arrived at, you are doing so without an inkling of the road they had to traverse to get that far and survive. Even shallow comments can cut deep.

Do yourself, your children and those you interact with a favor, think before you speak. Build up those around you, particularly if you want them to stick around. Treat people like you would want them to treat you. It sounds cliche, but it's a fine rule to live by.

Now, go out there and do it!

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